Ok, this is me breaking out of my encouraging, positive mode
for a second here. I am angry. I am frustrated. I am depressed……I have had
enough, and I don’t know what to do.
I just received an email from an IC patient who had been
following a “virgin” diet for the past several months. She had eliminated gluten,
dairy, eggs, soy, peanuts, sugar, and corn. She was eating mostly fruits and
vegetables, and now she has horrible, horrible bladder pain. At first, I wanted to SCREAM, “DUH!” But I didn’t….I
encouraged her and talked gently...because she was afraid and she thought she was doing
the right thing and someone else obviously convinced her to try this…and in
the end she DID turn to me and I desperately wanted to help her.
I get SO frustrated when I hear these stories. I totally believe in patients trusting their intuition and adjusting the IC Diet for their own needs, but where did she
get this information? A random internet site? A Facebook or Pinterest group that
is promoting unconventional interstitial cystitis diet practices? There is NO reason why this poor
woman had to go through this because we have solid research now and excellent patient documentation about the
foods that cause flares and those that do not.
As I write this, I truly want to cry.
Her life is precious and sacred and someone is stealing DAYS – WEEKS – MONTHS from
her and other patients with their bogus information.
Trust me, I know why the IC patients do it. I have been
there.....experimenting and desperately trying to find out what is wrong with
me. Yes, following the
IC Diet can be cumbersome, but not as cumbersome as some
of the alternate diets I have seen out there. How can we clear the clutter and
just get back to basics with the
IC Diet?? How many ways can I spread the
message? Trust me, I don’t make any money doing this. I don’t work a full time
job, I do this. I try to help you. I try to do it in as honest and encouraging
way as I possibly can. Yet, when I hear these stories, I sometimes feel like my whole mission is pointless.
But today, I am going to give it another shot. Let me just take a deep breath and try to clarify some things....
First, what is the "IC Diet"? Over the course of several months in 2009, I met with representatives from the
Interstitial Cystitis Association and the
Interstitial Cystitis Network, and we went through the food list item
by item. (See previous blog article:
How Did the Standardized IC Diet Come About?) We compared the food to lists from emerging IC diet research and from
decades of patient reports. We triple checked it against our personal consultations
with painful bladder patients and quadruple checked it against our personal experience as patients ourselves.
Our two primary goals were
to provide a liberal list of foods for patients to choose from as well as
encourage them to eat. The third outcome was a bonus…the AUA came out the following year with
recommendations that included diet modification as
one of the first line interventions for newly diagnosed interstitial cystitis patients. What a
victory! The doctors were now on our side!
But here’s the thing. The
IC Food list isn’t sexy. It isn’t
related to any of the fad diets out there. It doesn't involve any green smoothies or purple shakes. But it IS real food that you can eat
every day. It is a HEALTHY, NUTRITIOUS diet based not only on science, but on
tens of thousands of patients recording their personal findings. Although some
IC patients might have additional allergies and foods sensitivities, most can
eat the same basic foods. So our message was for people with IC to keep it simple and stay away from all of that other
craziness that will just complicate things. Ignore the people who want to take your money. Educate yourself
on what we KNOW about the interstitial cystitis diet and what has worked for tens of thousands of other
people.
Second, finding good information: The
Confident Choices books are not published by a big publishing house, but
they provide EXCELLENT information on the interstitial cystitis elimination diet written in a language that most people find
easy to understand, helpful, and encouraging. I care deeply about the patients and I hope that shows.
You can pay the same price for
whacky interstitial cystitis e-books that tell you a bunch of bogus stuff written by people who don't care at ALL about IC patients.You can even spend your hard earned money on books that are poorly
written or are too technical for the average interstitial cystitis patient. The biggest compliment I get on these books is
that I gave straightforward and encouraging information. People begged me, “Just
tell me what to eat.” So that is what I wrote. It is that simple. Why don’t people see that?
The information is out there.
Third, getting additional help: What if you are still confused after reading my books? Or you
feel like you really need to talk to someone about the IC Diet who “gets it?” That is normal part of the chronic disease process. It is confusing and crazy and you are exhausted and
frustrated. If you want to take it a step further, I can help you streamline the process.
The prices for these
IC Diet consultations are reasonable and about 70% what
most dietitians charge. I know insurance doesn’t cover this, so I want to make
it affordable for you, the average person. PLUS….Talking one hour with me can
save you hundreds of hours of research and thousands of dollars you might waste on other books and products.
I can help you minimize your bladder symptoms while you
maximize your quality of life. Isn’t that what we all want?
Finally, spreading the word: Many of you follow me because you have already purchased
my books or have had a consultation with me. For that, I thank you. But, now I
need a little more help from you. Help me spread QUALITY information about IC Diet on your other
Facebook pages. Tell your doctors about the
Confident Choices books and my services when you go
to your check-ups. Review my books on
Amazon. Give people the correct
IC Food List link. Tell other patients about my books. Tell them about the
IC Diet Facebook page and this
blog and my newsletter. Tell them I am here to talk to them when they are the most afraid and in
pain. I can help people but they have to know I exist.
The bottom line: Help me combat the bad people who are
spreading dangerous information.
I don’t
want any more IC patients taken advantage of by those who give them a diet
that will steal their life away. If you hear about bad information being spread, speak up or tell me so I can address it.
Now, I need to respond to another email from that patient who wrote to me this morning. Hopefully, I can help her out of this mess.
Author, Speaker, Patient Advocate
Don't Waste Time: Stick with What We Know Works